The word said David perceived he was King. There was no prophetic announcement this time. God was ready to establish him, and he had to recognize his time to be crowned had come. Do you recognize this is your time to take your kingdom? The first city King David went to conquer was Jerusalem. Let’s see what they said about King David in 2 Samuel 5:6-10 The king and his men marched to Jerusalem to attack the Jebusites, who lived there. The Jebusites said to David, “You will not get in here; even the blind and the lame can ward you off.” They thought, “David cannot get in here.” 7 Nevertheless, David captured the fortress of Zion—which is the City of David.

They were mocking King David by saying that he was so weak that he couldn’t even make it past their blind and lame. Have you ever been in a season in your life the enemy has challenged you mentally, financially, spiritually, physically or even possibly sexually that God can’t give you what he promised you? It’s the inner enemy that is usually bigger than the enemy outside that we must get passed in our hearts and minds. David had to figure out a way to conquer Jerusalem without destroying it.

What are you trying to conquer?

Pastor Keion Henderson shared something profound in a message called Attention to details. God wants you to know in order to conquer your spouse’s heart, you cannot destroy her or him to gain the respect and love you deserve.

Some people don’t even realize that they have violence in their borders in their relationship because they aren’t swinging physically on each other. No, you may not be beating them with your fist, but your words have cut like a knife. Your denial of affection is as cruel as solitary confinement. Your rejection has clipped their wings and thrown them into a cage and locked it where they were once soaring.

David knew he couldn’t do it alone. David told his crew, whoever goes through this gutter will be the chief captain. We know the enemy has told you it is easier to just destroy the relationship and walk away. God wants you to be willing to go through that gutter together and conquer that issue without allowing it to destroy your whole relationship. Promotion is on the other side of this in your relationship.

God gave King David a strategy to conquer Jerusalem. What is your Jerusalem? Sometimes as you humble yourself, it may feel dark, cold and you may feel like at times you are crawling through the gutter to save that relationship. You may not even be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. God wants you to know it is worth it. Jerusalem became the stronghold of King David, and it became the city of David. This relationship will become your stronghold. Your safe place.

The word says in Proverbs 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he that rules his spirit than he that taketh a city. Rule your spirit, be slow to anger and honor God in that relationship. Watch God establish you in your sphere of influence. God is going to cause you to overcome that weakness in your relationship if you are willing to not destroy it to get the love and respect you deserve and desire. Remember to humble yourself and submit to one another.