It was a package deal. Some men really think that if they can’t have the woman, then they don’t want to be bothered with their own kids. I remember shortly before our court date to establish child support for my oldest son, his father told me to tell public aid that I didn’t know who the father was. I had too much pride to do that. I also am an honest person. I wasn’t about to lie and say that because I had never been with anyone but him. He was mad at me for taking him for child support. He leaned over as we stood in front of the judge and whispered, it was a packaged deal. He then waved all his visitation rights to our son and didn’t speak to us for 17 years. I recently watched a podcast show and saw a man that is trying to say that his kids were artificially inseminated, so he doesn’t have to pay child support.

Sometimes men want you for different reasons, but a man of God will recognize your value like Boaz did with Ruth. He will be willing to accept you like Boaz did with the understanding that it was a package deal. Let’s see what happens.

In the story of Ruth, we see God’s redemption. Ruth had a past like we all do. She was a Moabitess. Sometimes our past can cause us to be rejected but the one that God has for you will love, honor and support you.  He will extend mercy, love and grace.  Boaz was not the next one in line to rightfully be able to marry Ruth. You may be thinking its too late for me or I missed my opportunity to find love.  You may be thinking I’ve done too much to be loved and honored. 

Allow God to heal your brokenness and love yourself so you believe that you are worthy to be loved properly.  God will hide your worth from the wrong one to save you for the right one. The right one will see you. See you see me, no not like them but like you.  Boaz recognized Ruth was honorable from the moment he laid eyes (not hands) on her.  Her reputation preceded her for the right things she did. We live in a cancel culture, and he didn’t hold her past against her.  He saw her for her.

Ruth

3 And he said unto the kinsman, Naomi, that is come again out of the country of Moab, selleth a parcel of land, which was our brother Elimelech's:

4 And I thought to advertise thee, saying, Buy it before the inhabitants, and before the elders of my people. If thou wilt redeem it, redeem it: but if thou wilt not redeem it, then tell me, that I may know: for there is none to redeem it beside thee; and I am after thee. And he said, I will redeem it.

5 Then said Boaz, What day thou buyest the field of the hand of Naomi, thou must buy it also of Ruth the Moabitess, the wife of the dead, to raise up the name of the dead upon his inheritance.

6 And the kinsman said, I cannot redeem it for myself, LEST I MAR MINE OWN INHERITANCE: redeem thou my right to thyself; for I cannot redeem it.

There are those that want what you have, maybe because of what’s between your legs, maybe because of your prophetic promises, maybe because of your bank account, maybe because of your mind, maybe because of your business, but he doesn't want you. The one that God has for you will love you holistically.  He will want all of you, the total package.

It was a package deal. 

He definitely wanted the land but not Ruth. The first thing Boaz did was make provision for her in the fields before she was his and made sure he honored her and had witnesses to prove he had done it right. Elimelech didn't want to mess up what he had going on and didn't want to share what he had. He just didn't see the opportunity he had because he was looking in the natural.  He couldn't SEE his future and the value she had to bring to the table. Boaz will be able to recognize your worth. When your core values are aligned, love will align.  Wait for him. Don't settle for the counterfeit.

 Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.